Step Mamma Blues?

Hello everyone out there in blog land. My oldest step-son had his senior day at his soccer game. I was so excited that he wanted his dad to be there. They have had a not so good relationship thanks to our step son's mom, who has discouraged the relationship between them. My husband adopted him when he was 3 years old and then they divorced within the year of his adoption. So, we arrive at the game and set down. At half time my husband goes over to our step son and they take pictures. I felt like the 3rd wheel asking to take a picture with him and then went back to my seat, while my husband and his ex-wife walk with him and take pictures, while the announcer says " here is (step son) with his dad (Tray Webb) and mom (Hillary - no last name) which made it look like they were together. So I can imagine that throughout the boy's lives (there are 2 more coming up) and my girls, there will be these issues with the ex's and me or my husband feeling left out. I guess it's just part of the relationship I am in. I don't think I have to like it though.

Tray and Melissa's Elk Hunt

My husband is an avid hunter and hunting guide. He has hunted his entire life and loves the outdoors. For the past 2 years he has put me in for hunting elk in Arizona. Last year he walked my butt off in Unit 27 in Northeast Arizona, past Alpine. We both did not kill an elk. This year I decided that he was not going to make my life miserable by hunting when it was cold and sending me over mountains on endless hikes to find an elk. So I decided I wanted to hunt early and on a flatter surface. We put in for Unit 2a and b. There are less elk there, but I could walk for a longer period of time and enjoy myself instead of freezing my #@s off! The first day of the hunt came and my daughter and step son get up with my husband and I at 4am to be on our way. We parked and waited for the sun to rise. At 5:45am we walked into a clearing and saw a huge elk! I set up to shoot and shot through an opening in the trees. The 6 x 6 bull elk stumbled and almost fell. My husband yelled, "Shoot it again!" and I did. The elk stumbled and walked into the trees. We were so excited! We waited 10 minutes and walked over to the area. Nothing was there! We looked for 8 hours and could not find the elk. Our friend thought perhaps because I was 300 yards away and didn't have a very high powered rifle that I may have just injured the elk. The following Wednesday, I took the day off to get revenge! My husband and I went hunting alone, no kids. We scouted an area in the morning and decided we would sit at a water hole that afternoon. When we came back and set up the hunting blind, the wind had kicked up and was blowing dust into the blind. We sat for 3 hours and didn't see anything. At 5:45pm we decided to take down the blind and call it a day. We put the blind away and looked over the watering hole and there they were! 2 6x5 elk! We decided who was going to shoot which one and as soon as mine took a drink, I shot him right between the shoulder blades and he went down...dead! My husband shot the next one right away as it ran up the hill. I have pictures on my facebook page!

we saw the modern version of "Measure for Measure" on Friday night. a little girl on girl kissing, some s and m, and gay stuff, but it was a traditional Shakespearean play, nonetheless. interesting take on morality and it's place in society and how people are hypocrites.

dating trials

I have a friend who just divorced at the age of 46. she is trying online dating and blind dates with friends of friends. watching this is very interesting! today she had a 2nd date with a man and he is now touching her. she is not used to public displays of affection and is quite uncomfortable. he also called her "cutie." she about blew it when he did that! it reminded me that i am quite happy not having to date anymore. dating sucks! i think of my daughters and they have to date to find a man, hopefully they date a few men before finding the one, but i also hope they don't date too long and miss out. quite a dance that we have to go through in life to find someone we like enough to spend time with and the rest of our life as well.

lessons for teens

this past week i have had the sex talk with my 15 yr old daughter. we already had the "mechanics" talk about what all the parts are and how they work. now we had the more detailed talk about relationships and how the parts work during sex. we also talked about how you really dont need a boy to feel good. i downloaded anatomically correct pictures to her laptop and told her they were there if she wanted to see them without me looking over her shoulder. i asked if she knew what an orgasm was. to my surprise she did know. so we talked about that too. it was a good conversation. she didnt seem uncomfortable.

i had the mechanics talk with my 10 yr old daughter as well. not good. she did not want to know about her parts or how they worked. she said when girls at school talk about it she walks away and doesnt want to hear it. i thought she should hear it from me and not the other girls, so i told her. the only part she was interested in was menstruation and how it worked. i was glad she came out of her shell a little to ask those questions. she asked me later again how often you have your period and how you rearrange you life around them.

i talked with my husband about talking with his sons too. he was initially against it. he had talked with them in the past but it was a lot of slang and not positive towards women. this is so common! he agreed eventually that he should teach them what their parts are and the correct names for the male anatomy just based on the fact that they could not talkto a doctor if they had an issue. it was like pulling teeth to get that far! it's amazing to me that my husband was that uncomfortable about sex.

relationships

last night my step son and i created a facebook account for him. he wanted it to play a game on the site. it was really cool cuz after he went home he was immediately online and messing around with his new account. he was instant messaging me about how cool it was and with questions about how to do stuff. i thought it was really nice to have your 13yr old step son instant messaging his step mom. i really value our relationship. he could very easily label me "step mom" and not want anything to do with me. he is just as tall as me now! he is going to be tall like his father.

Busy, Busy

I am currently taking 2 college classes. One is moral philosophy and one is children's literature. I am really enjoying the phl. class because I can argue in the class. I have a great professor. He allows debate and doesn't say much about who is right or wrong. The children's lit class is an adventure. There are 3 adult students and 2 high school students. I didn't need the class, only took it for fun. The instructor is a blast. She is an exciting speaker. I am wondering how I have time to take classes and work and do the mommy thing. I think I am very blessed to have a job that allows me to do other things while working! Like write a blog,hehe.

I am writing a paper about how psychopathic people are treated if they commit crimes versus others who do not, people like Ted Bundy...definitely psychopathic....what do you think?