lessons for teens

this past week i have had the sex talk with my 15 yr old daughter. we already had the "mechanics" talk about what all the parts are and how they work. now we had the more detailed talk about relationships and how the parts work during sex. we also talked about how you really dont need a boy to feel good. i downloaded anatomically correct pictures to her laptop and told her they were there if she wanted to see them without me looking over her shoulder. i asked if she knew what an orgasm was. to my surprise she did know. so we talked about that too. it was a good conversation. she didnt seem uncomfortable.

i had the mechanics talk with my 10 yr old daughter as well. not good. she did not want to know about her parts or how they worked. she said when girls at school talk about it she walks away and doesnt want to hear it. i thought she should hear it from me and not the other girls, so i told her. the only part she was interested in was menstruation and how it worked. i was glad she came out of her shell a little to ask those questions. she asked me later again how often you have your period and how you rearrange you life around them.

i talked with my husband about talking with his sons too. he was initially against it. he had talked with them in the past but it was a lot of slang and not positive towards women. this is so common! he agreed eventually that he should teach them what their parts are and the correct names for the male anatomy just based on the fact that they could not talkto a doctor if they had an issue. it was like pulling teeth to get that far! it's amazing to me that my husband was that uncomfortable about sex.